A simple truth worth repeating
Today, my friend and I talked... about life.
And eventually, we touched on something very simple.
How to behave in any situation.
Yes, I know — we’ve all heard it a hundred times. But it came up today for a reason, and maybe someone, somewhere, needs a reminder (honestly, I still need to remind myself from time to time too).
As Bashar says:
“Follow your highest excitement.”
Our beloved friend Mirjam has a beautiful teaching around this too — and it’s worth returning to often.
If someone asks you for something, offers you something, or even if you're just choosing between options yourself:
👉 Check in with your body. And your heart.
Does it expand and shout:
✨ “YES YES YES!”
Or does it contract and whisper:
🙅♀️ “I don’t want to…”
And yet — how often do we override that clear “no” just to be nice, to be helpful, to be liked?
A little trick for the “no” struggle
If it’s hard for you to say “no”, here’s a trick I recently learned that really helps:
Instead of saying “no”, just say:
“Not now.”
It’s simple, less final, and easier to say — especially in the beginning.
It keeps the door open just enough to feel safe, without betraying yourself.
And funny enough, once you give yourself that little bit of space... your body, heart, and mind usually figure it out together.
You start to understand why your body said no.
You give your inner wisdom time to catch up.